WEDDING PLANNING ADVICE - 3 Top Tips For Conquering Wedding Day Nerves

19th February 2020


Celebrants get to see the wedding day nerves of both brides and grooms, so who better to share some advice then guest writer, Celebrant Kate, who just happens to be an experienced mindfulness teacher! 

Managing wedding day nervesThe cold sweat. The waking at 3 am with your heart pounding. The sinking feeling. The blind panic! It is all a normal part of the build-up towards the wedding day, but it can feel completely overwhelming. 

But there is hope.

Try these three things and feel much better and more confident.

1. Grounding

When you find your thoughts whirling, take a moment to stop and either sit or lie down somewhere safe. Look around you. Notice five things which you can see - and when you notice them, don't get distracted by them, just note the details and allow your eyes to rest on them. Next, close your eyes and listen. Find five things you can hear - again, don't analyse, just listen. When you have heard 5 things begin to notice 5 things you can feel - it may be bodily sensations from outside - air temperature, the feeling of cloth on your skin, pressure points on your body in contact with the chair etc, or internal - breathing, stomach gurgling, etc. Don't get caught up in analysing them or worrying about what they mean, just notice and move on. Finally, take a few breaths and notice 5 scents in the air around you. Open your eyes - you should feel a lot more grounded now.

2. Jaw Relaxation 

Take 30 seconds and totally relax your jaw - as you do so notice how your lips also relax, and your cheeks, your forehead, your eyes - just concentrate on the feeling of relaxation - don't allow other thoughts to distract you, gently return to the feeling of relaxation.

3. Square Breathing

Breathwork can make some people anxious. If this is your difficulty, then focus on the other activities until you feel ready. If you are ok to do breathwork, then take a deep breath in for 5, hold for 5, breathe out for 5 and breathe normally for 5. repeat 4 times - can you see where the name 'square breathing' came from? 

Hopefully, you are feeling a lot calmer now. Remember, the room is full of people who love you, and you are marrying the one person who you can trust more than anything. Talk about your feelings and have a happy and calm wedding day!

Click here to out more about how Kate can help you cope with stress and manage anxiety in all aspects of your life, not just the wedding day.


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