ADVICE - Resolutions Worth Making at the Dawn of a New Decade by Camilla Bourquin, Founder of Lifestyle Subscription Box Moi-Même

26th January 2020

Today, I'm delighted to feature a guest post from Camilla Bourquin, founder of luxury lifestyle subscription box company, Moi-Même. The name translates as 'myself' in French, and their aim is to help you make self-care and me-time a priority; they also support smaller independent and often female-led brands. Camilla explains why you shouldn't feel bad about not sticking to the conventional set of New Year's resolutions, and introduces us to more self-nurturing adaptations which will start the new decade in a more positive way than you have done before.

As the longest, dreariest month of the year finally draws to a close, you may be reflecting back on the last few weeks and feeling despondent. All those good intentions for 2020 – to eat healthily, go to the gym, read those ‘proper’ books that have been sitting on your shelf for months – have probably fallen by the wayside. If this sounds like you then it’s time to stop berating yourself and start celebrating everything that’s already brilliant about you.

It’s human nature to see January as a fresh start, a time to say goodbye to the old you and become a ‘better’ person. And if you’re getting married in 2020 then it’s easy to put even more pressure on yourself when it comes to New Year resolutions.

All this #newyearnewyou talk is pointless though and just leads to unhappiness and disappointment. The problem is it stems from the idea that there’s something wrong with you, that something needs fixing and improving and to do that you need to deprive and punish yourself until you become perfect. Ridiculous, right?! If you really do want to make some changes in your life then they need to come from a place of self-love, from an understanding that you are already good enough as you are and that any changes are to bring you greater happiness and wellbeing and to help you achieve the life that you want. 

A wedding is the start of a new chapter in your life where your future is entwined with someone else, with shared hopes and dreams for what lies ahead. There’s nothing more exciting than setting goals together, whether it’s planning a beautiful home, an exotic honeymoon or committing to spend quality time together once you’re married. (Kristina Karlsson’s book ‘Your Dream Life Starts Here’ is an excellent guide to turning your dreams into a reality, breaking them down into smaller, actionable goals.) Resolutions should be built on dreams, taking the already brilliant you to a place of greater fulfilment and happiness. But they should also be about living in the moment and enjoying the day to day – clichés, I know, but happiness isn’t something that will come once you’ve reached the end of your to-do list, it’s something that you deserve to have right now, amongst responsibilities and chores that will always be there. 

So, it’s time to start 2020 again and change the narrative: no more “I shouldn’t have eaten that cake”, “I feel guilty for not going to the gym”, “I scrolled through Instagram when I could have read a book”. Instead, listen to your mind and body and give them what they need, whether it’s an extra hour’s sleep, catching up on celebrity gossip, a walk outside or a slice of cake. Here are some ideas for new resolutions for February and beyond:

  • I’m going to dedicate one night a week to catching up with friends – this could be meeting up for a drink, a chat on the phone or just seeing what they’ve been up to on social media – whatever feels right for you that day.
  • I’m going to go to bed when I’m tired – this may not be possible every night but, when it is, do it!
  • I’m going to move my body each day – some days a high-intensity workout might be just what you need, but other days a few simple stretches and focused breathing in front of the TV can be just as beneficial.
  • I’m going to dedicate one night a week to doing something just for me – whether it’s a face mask and a bath, a bit of online shopping or watching a film you’ve already seen 10 times, put down the to-do list and do whatever you want for the evening.

How much more appealing do these resolutions sound compared to “I’m going to lose 2 stone and go to 3 spin classes a week”?! Paying attention to, nourishing, and being kind to yourself will do far more for you, inside and out, than deprivation ever will. When you’re happy, rested, nurtured (and loved!), that’s when your inner glow will shine through and you’ll really look and feel your best on your wedding day. And if ever you need a reminder that you’re good enough just as you are, remember that the love of your life has chosen to marry you exactly as you are, with all the glorious imperfections that make you so special!  

Moi-Même boxes include stylish jewellery, luxury beauty, elegant stationery, seasonal accessories, chic homewares and more, from independent brands such as Elizabeth Scarlett, Lola’s Apothecary, Rachel Jackson London, Prismologie, and Coco Chocolatier.

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